The Long Game: When Enablers Become Predators
Writing Breathing the Night Out didn’t just help me heal; it brought everything into focus. It revealed the uncomfortable truth about the women in my childhood and the ways they enabled child sexual violence. The Hidden Scale of Child Sexual Violence in Canada In Canada it is estimated that 1 in 3 girls and 1 […]
The Original War Sometimes Hits Us Like a Football
On November 6, 2025, Marshawn Kneeland, 24, defensive end for the Dallas Cowboys, took his own life—just days after achieving a spectacular milestone: his first NFL touchdown. I don’t do football, I’m not a man, and I’m not Black—so on the surface, you might say I don’t have to fight that fight. But I do, […]
When a Storm Learns to Speak!
Originally Published: Oct 14, 2025 I feel like a kid with a new toy. 🎉 When I finished writing my book, I was so exhausted I could barely spell my own name, let alone form a sentence. I struggled to write my acknowledgments for all the incredible folx who carried me through the last 18 […]
Learning to Breathe in a Pinball Machine
Orginally Published: Oct 15, 2025 As someone fighting to survive child sexual violence, from time-to-time, I move through a minefield of emotions just to make it through the moment. Because of my C-PTSD, some days feel like I’m trapped inside a broken pinball machine—lights flashing, alarms blaring, everything stuck on fast and furious with no […]
Healing Happens in Relationship
Originally Published: Oct 16, 2025 Healing happens in relationship. Child sexual violence also happens within a relationship. And children grow up fighting to survive that relationship. Because relationships shape who we are, healing must also happen within relationship. That’s what led me to The Gatehouse in Toronto — a brave and safe space where facilitators […]
30% or You’re Not Serving the Community
How many visibly targeted, underserved people sit on your board? In your leadership team? On your committees? Is it at least 30%? There’s your number.Now go make it happen. Everyone says they want their organization to grow. Many struggle to convince people to “do the right thing.” So here’s the truth: if morality isn’t motivating […]
Never Eat with People You Don’t Like
Originally Published: Oct 19, 2025 Imagine what it’s like for a child who is being sexually assaulted in their own home — sitting at the breakfast table with their abuser. This short clip with Deepak Chopra MD (official), offers a glimpse into that reality, and why it matters: never force yourself to eat with people […]
I’m a Fucking Warrior: Fighting to End Child Sexual Violence
Originally Published: Oct 18, 2025 I’m a Fucking Warrior fighting to end Child Sexual Violence. Let’s break that down: “Warrior” has a few layers of meaning, depending on the context:Literal / Historical – A person who fights in battles or wars. Traditionally, warriors were trained soldiers or fighters, often tied to a tribe, nation, or […]
Buddhist Approach to Addiction Recovery with Valerie Mason-John
Originally Published: October 17, 2025 My life shifted the moment I picked up Eight Step Recovery by Valerie Mason-John (Vimalasara), a Buddhist teacher with 30+ years of practice. By age eight, Valerie had survived sexual abuse in foster care—and yet turned trauma into teachings that help thousands heal. Reading their words, I felt something shift […]
Man Enough to Heal
Originally Published: Nov 10, 2025 In 1993, the police began the investigation that ultimately led to my father’s arrest and conviction for sexually assaulting me when I was a child. I was an adult when I finally reported the crime. My brothers and sister had their own experiences with our father too. I was fortunate. […]